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How to Minimize Closet Meltdowns
It happens to everyone at some point. We can't have it all figured out every single day. You are getting ready to leave the house for the day but have no idea what to put on. Maybe you're in a hurry. Maybe you've been so busy with life that your laundry has been done but everything is still in hampers or on a pile in the closet. As a business owner and mother of two daughters, I found myself in this situation more commonly than not. Here are a few things I did to lessen the chance of my morning meltdowns before a long day at the office. Create a routine that provides structure and order Routines have definitely helped in my day-to-day life. Creating a structured and orderly way to get myself and the girls ready in the morning has truly proved to be one of the most steps to cutting out anxiety for myself and the girls. Our routine begins the night before with laying out their clothes for the day, baths, and bed. I chose to pick my clothing in the morning when they are still sleeping and I have quiet time to myself. I realized that trying to get them dressed and finding clothes for myself was causing havoc in our lives and in our morning routine. Do a Wardrobe edit to help with the declutter. A wardrobe edit is very important in minimizing closet meltdowns. Going through your wardrobe and determining what does not fit, what is damaged, what is no longer or has never been flattering, and what you simply don't wear is a vital part of this process. By removing the clutter, you have opened up a world of possibilities with a lesser chance of disappointment. Creating more of a capsule wardrobe for your closet is a safer bet in cutting back on anxiety when searching for a look for the day. Organize your closet so things are easier to grab. Once you have removed the clutter, it's time to organize what you have remaining. There are so many ways you can choose to do this step. I like to color code my closet so I can pair my looks for the day. Some clients prefer to organize by season and type of items (blouses, dresses, pants, blazers, etc.). Whatever your preference may be, organizing your space will make it easier to grab what you need and get ready for your day. Set your intentions for the day so you know HOW to dress. The last step is to be intentional with your selection. Take a second and think of what needs to be accomplished for the day before you go to look for your outfit of the day. If you know that it will a rainy day, you would possibly pass on something that is long and flowing. Maybe you have physical therapy to do after your finish your work day but won't have time to change before you head over to the clinic. A cute dress or skirt would not be the best option for the look that day. Simply take a few moments and really consider what you need to achieve for the day and pick a look that will suit your adventure. If you feel that you cannot tackle these steps alone, do not worry. I am here to help. Simply click the link below so we can schedule a help session. I provide one-on-one virtual and face-to-face sessions that can help you begin your wardrobe edit.
What's your personal style?
Fashion trends come and go but your personal style is unique to who you are and how you want to see you. You can develop your unique style by searching for inspiration, creating a mood board, and experimenting with fashion. People display their personal style through their clothing, accessories, hairstyles, and the way they wear their outfits. Read the following descriptions below to learn more about the five personal style types. Classic The Classic Style Type is safe, clean and traditional. You know what works for you and you tend to stick with it. You value longevity over trends and most likely have established somewhat of a fashion uniform, a trusted look that is both timeless and flattering with a smart flair. In the Classic Style Type’s wardrobe, you’ll mostly find neutral colors with the occasional pop of red or green. A white blouse or a crisp white shirt is a staple for this fashionista’s closet. Accessories are simple such as a strand of pearls, diamond studs, but nothing ever over the top. Chic The Chic Style type is known for wearing monochromatic ensembles and pieces with sleek clean lines – she exudes power and has an innate sense of fashion. She often chooses black, white, and neutrals, saving color for a bold statement accessory such as an alligator skin purse or a bright led lipstick. In the Chic Style Type’s wardrobe, you will find sleek, modern shapes and of-the-moment accessories. A little back dress is always a staple, as is a little white dress. Accessories and outerwear are where she gets adventurous. Whimsical Whimsical style types adore color and have a natural ability to mix and match colors, patterns, and textures. She is rarely seen in black, instead she favors bright blues, pinks, and greens, with the occasional neutral such as taupe or brown. In the Whimsical style type’s closet, you’ll find loads of playful prints and accessories. The Whimsical style type isn’t afraid to stand out, in fact, she thrives in the spotlight and enjoys having all eyes on her and her fanciful sense of style Bohemian The Bohemian Style Type is the most casual and carefree of the style types. They mostly stick with an earth tone palette-steering towards browns, camel tones, denim. And pieces rich in burgundy and hunter green. Never one to shy from a print, Bohemian style types love a classic paisley or animal print- specially in the form of a blouse or a flowing dress. Bohemian ladies are known for favoring long, sweeping silhouettes—romantic silk maxi dresses and willowy oversized blouses are must-haves in their wardrobes as are fringe accents and lots floppy hats. Avant-Garde Arguably the most adventurous, the avant-garde woman sees fashion as wearable art. She adores playing with shapes and proportions and although she favors black for everyday, she’s not one to shy away from whites, bright colors, or even metallic. In Avant-garde Style Type’s wardrobe, you’ll find various different shapes, asymmetrical hemlines, and pieces with lots of volume. She also has a predilection for menswear-inspired clothing and loves the idea of wearing a tuxedo pantsuit for formal events. Most of her handbags and jewelry are statement-making and fashion-favored, but she has a keen awareness of how to create a sleek and balanced look. If you are unsure about your personal style, take the following quiz to help identify your taste in fashion. Use what you've learned to begin the journey of editing your wardrobe to fit your personal style. If you would like to dive more into how your style influences the way others see you and how I can help coach you in reorganizing your styling habits, click the link below to get started on discovering and redefining a more fashionable You.
Why use a Wardrobe Consultant?
A wardrobe consultant's job is to help theirclient discover thei personal style and fine tune their look while complimenting their body type. What you wear affects how people see, respond, and interact with you. What you choose to wear can uplift you or stop you dead in your tracks. Ninety percent of your communication is based on your appearance. Your appearance is a visual representation that remains after the conversation is over. Failure to make the connection could result in a block between you and intended audience. How you look and feel about yourself affects how others interact, trust, communicate or relate to you. This is not a small thing. However, before you work with an wardrobe consultant, be sure you're clear on who you are and what you want to accomplish in your professional and personal life. As a consultant, I perform a style assessment to begin the process of shopping, styling, and coaching my potential clients. Depending on the needs of the client, I may perform wardrobe edits, color analysis, photoshoots, or even digital branding. Through analysis and coaching, clients learn the science of styling and what looks fit for their body type. This often extends into the home. This is where closet edits become a powerful tool. Together, we can go through your wardrobe and remove items that no longer suit your style and instead fill it with the right things saving you space, time, money, and hours of searching for the "right thing to wear." Working with a wardrobe consultant is not a one-and-done type of situation. As you change in life or career, so should your sense of style. Think back to your days leading up to your senior year of high school. Now think to your junior year of college. What style are you wearing now? My role as a wardrobe consultant is to help my clients stay current and fresh. This doesn't mean staying trendy! It simply means that your look should be relevant to what you are showing your audience. A dated look can come across as the person being out of touch or irrevelent. Remember, your clothes speak! If it's been a while since you've updated your wardrobe, it may be time for you to reach out to a wardrobe consultant to help. Interested in speaking more about what I can do for your wardrobe? Click the link below to get started. Don't put yourself, your goals, and your dreams on hold for one more day.
My Summer Body Challenge
By no means am I saying that I am overweight. I’m simply stating that I’m out of shape and miss the healthier version of myself. Now that school is out I can focus more on my business, my family, and my body goals.
I have four things I’ve chosen to do to improve my mind and body this summer.
1. Daily morning workouts 2. Healthier eating 3. Cutback on drinking 4. Increase self care I’ve cleared space in my home so that I can do my morning YouTube dance cardio workouts. I’m loving Mike Peele right now. His workouts are fun and high in carb burning. I drink lots of water and turn the air conditioning up so I can get some extra sweat happening.
I’m cutting back on my carb and salt intake. Crawfish season is almost over and they are getting tougher to peel. This means I won’t be eating nearly as much but I hate to work too hard. My eggs are plain and I eat them with a veggie on the side. I am also addicted to pasta. I want it every single day that my eyes are open. This will be the hardest habit to break this summer.
I said pasta would be the hardest but as I get to this step I realize that cutting back on drinking Red Bull and vodka and wine will the hardest or them all. I don’t live the healthiest lifestyle. I have a Red Bull as soon as I wake up and maybe another in the evening with vodka. But I will admit that I consume at least two drinks a day. I’m a teacher! Education is stressful. I need it to wine down. However, on the weekends it’s much more because I’m a social drinker. Finally, I will be incorporating more self care techniques to achieve my healthier version of Me! I will be blogging more, meditating before bed, doing evening yoga to wind down before bed, and a weekly self care service. What’s that last one you say? I will go to the nail salon, go get a massage, go on a solo date.
I’m very excited about the next two months. check back to read more about my adventures of my Summer body challenge.
Why Capsule Wardrobes work for some and not all?
Before I dive into this topic I would like to start off with saying that a true capsule wardrobe would not and could not for me. So understand that I’m not pushing anyone to run out and throw away everything you’ve ever owned and loved to follow this trend. However…a slight variation of this concept would and has made my life so much more simple for outfit selections.
Lets begin with defining “capsule wardrobe“. In the simplest terms, is shedding your wardrobe of complex pieces and keeping basic staple pieces that can be mixed and matched. I’ve read that an ideal CW has anywhere from 17-35 pieces that can be mixed and matched to credit over 100 looks with only those items. That sounds really cute and every…but definitely not realistic for me or my business. So I continued to research and fell on a variation called seasonal capsule wardrobe. Now this was everything I needed and more! A seasonal capsule wardrobe is exactly what it sounds like. Instead of you only having those 17 to 35 pieces for the entire year, you would select the same number of pieces per season. This is not as hard as you might possibly think it to be. As a Closet consultant, I struggle with clients who struggle with letting things go. You attempt and sit down with a client and explain that you can’t keep everything, you need to make decisions on what to keep and what to let go. Prior to my first home visit, we have a virtual meeting where we discuss the parameters of a closet detox . I can’t expect the client to really make decisions on things that they absolutely do not want. That’s the whole reason they choose my services. What I do instead is have them go through their closet and select items that they love the way they look in them and items that they like the way they look in them but aren’t really sure that it’s a look for them at this moment. I will be honest with you, the second pile is usually the clothes that are going to go. However, I started researching the capsule wardrobe idea for a client and truly dove into the idea of a seasonal capsule wardrobe instead. I put a slight spin on the seasonal capsule wardrobe. Instead of strictly sticking to neutral colors, I encourage my clients to select a color scheme that they like to wear for each season. This is our starting point. For example, if I have a client who likes to wear the color green during the winter months, I would structure their seasonal capsule wardrobe around the appropriate shade of green for winter. The idea is never to start completely over with your wardrobe. The concept is to fine-tune what you already have to fit the stress-free looks you want to achieve. As a full-time teacher, single mother, and business owner, it is very hard to create last minute looks without having a mini meltdown. As a stylist and reseller, I have tons of inventory that I am constantly purchasing, photographing, styling, and selling. The hardest part about all of this is trying to dress myself! I have so many clothes and so many options because of my business. It became overwhelming to walk into my own closet to make selections for my every day looks. This is the reason that the seasonal capsule wardrobe became so appealing. With my need to have a versatile wardrobe that I can show my followers how to style, I needed some way to ease my stress in decluttering my own space while maintaining my flair for style. I hope this concept can help you in some way . If you need help with a closet detox, please do not hesitate to enlist my services.
Being Productive in January 2022
With the spike in covid cases and a need for normalcy, we have to plan our time efficiently to be more productive for the year. January is the month of fresh starts, brainstorming, fine-tuning, and preparation. Fresh starts. We are at crossroads in the wake of 2022. What will we do? What do we want to change? What can we try differently that wasnt so great in previous year? This is the perfect time to decide what to keep, what to ditch, and what to invest more time into so you can make it more than you ever imagined. For me, it’s growing my resell business and branding my blog. These are two very large goals with everything else on my plate (family, teaching, tennis, traveling, etc) but they are realistic achievements if I plan accordingly and stay on task.
Brainstorming. This is where we sit with a pencil and notepad to determine where we go from here?!?!? Choosing an “all together new goal” will require some research and detailed planning. Depending on the size of your goal, you might need some additional help to be your most productive self. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you are unsure. Find an expert in that field. Go to social media group pages about your interest/goal and ask for HELP. I’ve joined several reseller groups on Facebook and Instagram as well as subscribing to blogs and YouTube pages of successful resellers in my niche. Now that we’ve researched HOW to achieve our goal, it’s time to fine-tune those steps into a solid action plan.
Fine-tune. We have laid the foundation for success through research and connecting with others with like minded interests. Now it’s time to narrow down what we want the final product to look like and the MOST logical way to get there without burning ourselves out. Weed out those unrealistic expectations and focus in on those processes that will get you to your end goal and LAST. The key here isn’t finishing and moving on. It’s attaining a lifelong goal that will continue to bring happiness and fulfillment to you beyond the completion stage. For my branding goal, I plan on focusing in on travel and productivity. Therefore I will look into collaborations with brands that focus on travel planning, travel accommodations, activities and places of interest. This will allow me to do what I love while growing my own brand and reseller business. As I travel, I shop in thrift stores and consignment shops in every city I travel to which accomplishes several things at a time.
Preparation. This is the final step of our pre-planning process. By this time, we hope that you have truly nailed down what you plan to achieve by the end of goal setting year. You‘ve acquired a small group of people to support you, narrowed down your achievable steps, and we are ready to start putting things in motion to complete one of your Big Four Goals . If you‘ve forgotten what this is, simply go back and read my 4:3 Goal Setting post for more detailed information and free printables. So I’m ready to start my journey in being a brand ambassador for travel related companies. I’ve researched and joined interest groups so I’m ready to prepare myself for success. Well what does that look like? For my goal, preparation would be making sure that my social media presences portrays my own brand. This will require me sitting down and making sure that what I’m putting out for the world to see is what my potential collaborators will want to be associated with.
These steps should have you off to a great start in January! Hopefully by February we are on to establishing our Big Four!
Steps to Goal Setting
So you’ve decided to set goals for yourself. Thats the first step! Congratulations, you are on your way to making the best version of you that YOU can be.
I call this the 4:3 technique for goal setting. I break down my goal into four steps and then each of the four steps are broken down into three smaller, more manageable steps. By breaking your big steps into smaller steps, you are able to manage the task more effectively and you can celebrate milestones. Note…it’s extremely important to celebrate the small things (milestones).
Lets start with an example.
Lets say I want to take a trip that will be very expensive ($5000) in December next year. I need to plan out how to save this money in time to buy my plane ticket, reserve my lodging, and any activities I plan to do while there. The first step will be to divide it into Four Milestones ( The Big Four ). My milestones will be major steps that will get me to my end goal or destination in this example. While creating my Big Four, I must also place deadlines (realistic ones) to ensure my success in achieving them.
Twelve months divided by four milestones equals three month intervals. Therefore, the four large goals (steps) I set need to be completed in March, June, September, December. This means that most of my financial burden needs to be completed by September. Any additional funds needed ( food, fun, trinkets ) will be gathered during the last three months of my goal setting season.
So let’s assume we’ve decided on our four large steps to have been nailed out. Awesome! Now what? We break each large step into three manageable steps. What do I mean? We decided that we need $5000 for this trip in which $4000 needs to be collected by September. For the sake of this example, we need to save around $1335 for our first milestone. We need to map out three steps to get this done. One suggestion could be to divide that total by three and we think of ways to put that money aside each month. Looking at our monthly expenses to see how we can put aside $445 by the end of each month. That could be doing extra overtime at work, cutting back on a luxury we extend ourselves (going out, drinking, hair/nails, shopping, etc.) or picking up a hobby that brings in a little extra money.
Here are the beginning stages of setting your goal. I’ve provided a document for you to help with the beginning stages of your planning process. Check back for more tips and help with celebrations of milestones.
4:3 Goal Planner Template Goal Setting Templates
New Year Countdown
Christmas is here and now it’s time to plan out your next seven days. What will you do? How will you start? Who will help you achieve your goals?
Let’s get started with the end in mind. Where would you like to be this time next year? This is the beginning of your goal setting. Do you want to be more financially responsible? Do you want to be more healthy? Do you want to be in a healthy relationship or have traveled to more destinations than ever before? The answer to any of these questions should be YES! This is the beginning step to setting your 2022 goal for yourself.
Know your strengths and weaknesses. Every goals begins with knowing what you want, what you are capable of, and your limits. Know your commitment level. If you are easily swayed to do other things, take on a commitment partner. Someone who will motivate you to stay on your goal path. Plan out detailed steps. There is absolutely no plan that was ever achieved without planning. Plan with intention. Know exactly what you need to achieve your end goal. If it takes four steps or twenty…whatever it takes, use the next seven days to plan every detail to the T to ensure success for next December if not earlier. Give yourself hard deadlines throughout the year. Make milestone deadlines that are achievable. Set mile markers that can encourage you to keep going but can also be seen as mini celebrations on your road to year’d end success.
We are ready to take the first step to a very successful and fulfilling 2022. Check back for a guide on how to create meaning milestones and how to celebrate them in a healthy way.
Downtown Detroit in December
Detroit is a beautiful city. Despite outside opinion, I found the downtown area to be magnificent. The streets were cleans. The buildings and services were immaculate and the weather was absolutely perfect.
I stayed at The Element by Westin which ended up being a great find. The room was amazing with a full kitchen and a nice view. Large windows faced the busy street that ran in front of the boutique hotel. The beautifully decorated lobby was adorned with quaint Christmas trees and bright decoration. The staff were warm and inviting with lots of suggestions on where to visit, eat, and how to easily get over to Canada. Breakfast was provided at their restaurant on the mezzanine floor. Why was this called a “continental breakfast” I will never know! This was far from that. There was a personal chef who made fresh omelets, breakfast sandwiches, etc at your request. I can do nothing but speak highly of the service that I received while visiting this establishment.
This Marriot property truly exceeded my expectations. I was less than a mile from The Little Ceasar Arena and Ford Field. There were lots of restaurants ($-$$$$) to choose from. I ate at Buddy’s which had a great lunch menu and amazing service. Rayne was my waitress and suggested great spots for drinks after 9pm. I went ventured into The Brakeman which was a drinking hole (not even close) across the street from the hotel. They had signature drinks with an array of dressings (chiles, grapefruit, blueberries, etc). You buy tokens as you walk in and use them to purchase your beer or cocktails.
I went to a Pistons’ game, ice skating at Campus Martius Parc, punched Joe Lewis fist, and saw Spiderman: No Way Home on the 8 Mile. What an experience! Can’t wait to return.
How to Heal the Holiday Blues
A few suggestions on how to ease seasonal anxiety/depression (SAD) Holiday blues are very common this time of year but even more so with this new spike of Covid. Losing loved ones, remembering the holiday traditions you all cherished, and trying to hold it all together while others are basking in the enjoyment of Christmas cheer is one of the hardest roles to play. There is no way to truly heal from the loss of someone dear to you but there are several ways for you to honor their memory and try to steer clear of the dark shadow of depression. Limit your alcohol and caffeine - alcohol is a depressant and caffeine makes you anxious. They lead to mood swings that might deepen your depression Use essential oils - they can be mood lifters and are perfect to help combat the holiday blues Give - giving of yourself and your time can make you feel better. Research shows that giving has similar effects as doubling your income. But make sure you make it a choice, not an obligation. Spend more time outside - sunlight improves our mood. We wake up and go to bed when it is dark. Open windows and blinds when you can. Create rituals - anticipation of something that makes you happy has its own healing powers. Create a daily, weekly, or monthly ritual such as a date night, a vacation or fun day, or even reading a book. Getting well - cut the junk food and pay attention to what you are putting into your body. Fresh veggies and lots of water.
Top Ten Winter Fashion Looks
Here are the Top 10 must haves for this Winter Fashion Season to make your wardrobe go from drab to STYLISH It has been a while since I’ve been able to blog. Changes in life and love can truly have an affect on your business and ambitions. However, I am resilient and am ready to step back into my purpose…. sharing my love of travel, fashion, and wellness with my followers. So let’s get back at it with TOP TEN TUESDAY ! Our Top Ten for this week will be the ten most needed items for your winter look this season. They range from over-the-top jackets to simple staple pieces that can be layered. Fringe accented tops and jackets Cropped puffer jackets Oversized puffer vests Chunky ski print sweaters Ponchos and capes Double denim Jumpers Faux fur Knit maxi dresses Tartan (plaids)
The Importance of Self-Management Skills
Good morning all. This has been a very trying time for my family. We have experienced great loss and emotional trauma in the last few months. I want to take this time to talk about self-management. Self management is the ability to take responsibility for one’s behavior and well-being. This is also referred to as self-regulation or self-control . When we go through traumatic events in our lives, there are various outcomes that are seen. The outcomes will vary based on the individual, their trauma, and how they choose to handle things thrown at them unexpectedly. But most importantly, self-management means you understand your personal responsibility in different aspects of your life, and you do what you need to fulfill that responsibility. Self-management skills are invaluable to the growth and development of your personal and professional life. More often than not, we tend to carry our personal traumas over into our personal and professional relationships. Doing so can damage our self-confidence to be our most authentic self in every aspect of our lives. I have included four skills that can help you in times when you are spiraling and cannot see your way through an emotional or traumatic event. Breathing and Relaxation : Deep breathing exercises are one the first steps to managing your stress. Find a quiet place and close your eyes. Take a deep breath in. Imagine an upside down bowl in your ribcage. Try to fill it up as much as possible and slowly release it through your nose while you count to eight. Emotional Healing : Addressing underlying causes is very important to your self-management. Any current anxiety, worry, or depression is coming from emotional wounds that need to be healed. Start journaling. Seeing your thoughts on paper helps you to identify the source of your stress. Self-Motivation : Be a good friend to yourself. Learn positive affirmations that are unique to your situation. Positive self talks and mastering the skill of mental rehearsals will put you on a path to healthy motivation personalized just for you. Physical Well-being : Relationship with your body and food. Positive vision and new habits. Healthy eating and physical activity are extremely important when it comes to improving the mind and body to its fullest potential.